I just left Heathers blog site where she was talking about adoption and foster care. My mind flashed back to this incident in our lives.
The phone call came one afternoon; "''Would you be willing to take a newborn temporarily for about 90 days until adoption arrangements can be made?" Mama immediately said, without hesitation , "Certainly!"
Now mama and I had agreed that we would be pleased to use our home as a temporary foster placement home. We were prepared and expecting a call just like that one.
Within a couple of days the social worker brought the new baby boy to our house. What a precious child. The bio mom was a 17 year old girl who had dropped out of school. Her mother was NOT going to have a grand child who was born out of wedlock - no way. Major family dispute and the mutual agreement was to put the child up for adoption.
After about two weeks we received another phone call from the social worker. "I have a very special request (pause) the bio mom is having second thoughts about giving up the baby for adoption. Would you object if she came to your house to see the baby?" Mama said; "That would certainly be okay and I would be glad to show her some basic child care steps." By the way, no one takes care of babies as well as mama!
In a couple of days the young lady arrived, by herself, at our home. When she came in we smiled, she trembled and was extremely frightened. I immediately put my arms around her, and held her, hugged her why she sobbed. I told her, looking her in the face; "You are facing one of the toughest decisions of your life! We are not here to judge you and are not in competition with you for your child. We are here to help you decide whats best!" She then hugged me and sobbed some more. Mama then went and got the baby and placed the baby in her trembling arms. It was the first time she held the child. The rest of the afternoon mama helped her take care of the baby. She then had to leave. She came and visited a couple more times.
Within a week or so the social worker called and said that the bio mom wanted to take the child home for the weekend - "grandma's" heart was changing. The weekend went fine and the bio mom eventually took her son home to stay.
One of the little neat things that happened during this process was that every once in awhile we would dress the baby up extra special, go into town and stop at a very special restaurant. The one where the bio mom worked as a waitress. The first time we did this the mom screamed with delight and took the baby and showed him to everyone.
Those of you in foster care or considering adoption, what a serious responsibility you have. Make sure you have Jesus direction in your life, because the child you are responsible for, now or later, their life depends on that.